A Day in the Life of Me

 I am always looking for things to motivate myself to practice my ever-beginner photography skills and the latest project I read about was to do.

“a day in the life of ME.”  {as Mom}
I don’t know about you, but I LOVE little challenges and doable projects. They motivate me and I feel accomplished and learn something along the way. This little photo challenge was just that for me.
It said to break out of only taking pictures of your kids
[um, that’s my favorite thing to do ever of course]
and try to sneak in some of them to capture moments that you want to remember from being a mom doing day-to-day things to document life in this phase… or at least that’s my ramble of what I wanted this little project to be for myself. 🙂
Keep in mind I DON’T have a tripod or a remote like the photography blogger had-though I hear they are relatively cheapish…. {one day–Santa??}
….but I did my best without that and it was fun attempting to capture moments.

Since this has been kind of a busy and crazy time at my house these past couple months with away rotations and being so far along pregnant wise–this project has just been a fun hobby I broke out when I could and the quality wasn’t as important as just documenting…. [maybe one day I can successfully execute both when I have more energy 😉 ]…not to mention I still just plain don’t know what I’m doing a lot of the time 🙂

These of COURSE were not taken all in one day, but I collected them as naturally as I could when regular mommy moments arose where I could sneak in some pictures, and others were just day to day things that happen with my kiddos that I wanted to document of them.

For documenting’s sake I snapped a couple pics after my doctor’s appointment when I found out that I’m dilated to a 4 and 80% effaced at 38 weeks and 1 day last week {TMI?? Sorry, I am an open book after all}…..I figured it may be one of my last before this baby is in my arms. Though, knowing me I could stay a 4 till after my due date. :)…3rd baby, so ya never know!

Off to school with Sissy. We only make it to walking to school about 2-3 days a week.
It’s hard to eat, get dressed, and B’s hair done with time to walk on time when school starts at 7:50! But, we do it when we can get out the door in time.

Morning chore:: J’s FAVORITE chore to do–putting away the silverware. If only he loved cleaning his room with as much enthusiasm as he does helping with the silverware.
But, what can I say?
I am grateful he does like to help with some chores.

1:1 playtime with my little man while B is at school….

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What I Want My Daughter to Know

I love raising a little girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I have mentioned that I have had my challenges and it is a learning process with all the emotions tied to my little Sassy, but I just love being her mom.
On my side of the family there are 10 grandsons and 2 granddaughters–one of which is our very own Sassy…it got me thinking about how grateful I am to raise a daughter at this time on earth.
As I’ve mentioned previously, Sassy is my independent, persistent, intelligent, strong willed, and unpredictable child.  She has helped me grow and has stretched me as a mom and person {and continues to stretch me} more than I knew I needed stretching and I am so blessed to call her mine!

As I am watching her grow up before my eyes, it had me thinking about what I want my daughter to know for herself….mostly because being a girl I know what pressures are placed on you the older you become [and the pressures you put on yourself] along with how much Satan tries to shoot down women’s confidence in themselves. That is why I feel such a responsibility [and privilege] to raise a daughter at this time. I believe that our God given gender holds eternal significance and we are given different unique gifts as men and women. We are either male or female by birth because God made us that way for a reason. That being said, I know that each of my children and myself are meant to be whatever gender we are and meant to be in our little family. I feel blessed to know that…..even our unknown gender babe in utero—whatever that gender is 😉

Anyway, back to Sassy….[just had to throw that in] I know she is meant to be a woman of God and I feel the influence and power she has and will have as she gets older. The influence of righteous women is so expansive and important in our world today. Because of this, I know Satan truly tires himself attempting to bring goodness down and I feel grateful that I get to help combat that early by teaching B truth and of what her REAL worth is.

For fun, here is my favorite quote ever about women of God::
“Women of God can never be like women of the world.  The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender.  There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind.  There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined.  We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith.  We have enough greed; we need more goodness.  We have enough vanity; we need more virtue.  We have enough popularity; we need more purity.”  -Margaret D. Nadauld-

Here are 6 of my personal goals for this angel of mine of the things I hope I have taught her and will continue to expound upon and reteach her throughout her life.

                              1. To KNOW she is loved

FEELING LOVED is so important. When I used to teach school I would see kids who struggled and had challenging home situations where they didn’t receive a lot of love and support at home. I also saw students who were VERY loved at home and could see what a difference it made in their self esteem, achievement, relationships, and successes. I want B to KNOW she is loved “ALL THE TIME NO MATTER WHAT!” I tell her and J every night before they go to bed. I’ll ask, “Do I love you when you’re screaming and yelling at the top of your lungs?” They’ll answer “yes!” “Do I love you when you’re happy?” “yes!” “Do I love you when you’re disobedient?” “yesssss” etc….. I HOPE she {and J} both know that my love is always there for them NO MATTER WHAT.

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Loan Money and Budgeting 101

 SERIOUSLY…boring blog post, right?

Well, ends up I am kind-of passionate about budgeting and I felt like sharing my lessons learned so far. And, truth is, it really MAY be as boring as my kids are making it look above…so only read if you want a serious run down of my budget and thoughts of loan money and things of that sort!!

Okay, I’ll be honest I’m no professional accountant; however, in terms of our family–I’m the “executer” with budget. AKA:: the unofficial accountant [I suppose] and I guess you could say it has become PRETTY second nature since I’ve been doing it for 5 years now.

 Braden has tons on his plate [as any med student+father+hubby does…not to mention church responsibilities] so we agreed on the budget together {right after we were married and we go over it every time we take out loans now that we are in med school} and I am the one who keeps track of our spending, earnings, etc. [since I DO have the time, oh wait we don’t make any earnings ;)]
For all of you newbies to the loan thing {since med school was our first time to take out a loan, period}, here are some things I’ve learned so far::

1. LIVE BY A BUDGET.

Sounds painful {sometimes it feels a titch painful}, BUT the vast majority of the time it just plain helps and blesses our family. Having a budget has helped ME distinguish WANT vs. NEED. Sure, we NEED to get a WANT every now and then to keep us sane; but, when you have a certain amount of money budgeted it helps you to really weigh out how often to do that and how badly you really need or want something….and to be patient and wait til you can afford something.

So here are some categories that we have used for our budget since we’ve been married….5 years strong and it has really helped us live within our means….or now {since we live on loan money} helps us not gain additional debt and interest unnecessarily…
Okay, here are our categories in case this helps any med school families out there [or to document for my kiddos if they want to see how to do it when the time comes]::
*Grocery
*Hubby personal money
*Wife personal money
*individual kids personal money
*Car insurance {not literally car insurance, because we pay for that…but money in case you car randomly breaks down to pay for the out of pocket price…we figure if we put some down every month it’ll prepare us and give us padding for when something comes up without having to freak out}
*family money-small amount each month for a family outing…..not to disclose personal info, but ours is $20! 🙂 So it allows for like the pumpkin patch outting, or one trip to fast food, or a carnival, the state fair, whatever! It makes us plan wisely….
*Miscellaneous Money— For RANDOM stuff…kids’ friends or whoever birthday parties, unexpected expenditures, the neighbor who sells with girl scout cookies that you feel bad not getting 1 box to support, etc…whatever!
*Cleaning supplies:: like chlorox wipes, toilet paper, windex, whatever
*Diapers/wipes
*Gas/electric bills– we average our summer and winter months and divide that by how many months of loan we are taking out and take out that much
*Gas— this is tricky…we did the same thing, calculated how much gas we spent over a fixed period of time via wellsfargo online{we did 5 months…because we get paid August-December…then in January we’ll get another dispersement of loans}….so we averaged 5 months of usage from examining our gas usage for 5 months…does that make sense? I’m totally not rereading my ramble because I don’t have that sort of time. Hopefully it makes some sort of sense! Yes, gas prices fluctuate, but so far we’ve been fine with the built-in-pads in our budget…and what prices go up must come down…so sometimes we get cheap gas, etc.
*real car insurance-obviously have to calculate that in…we pay 6 months at a time…and let me tell you BARGAIN people! I went back and forth with 3 companies and got my price way down…geico! I’ve been super impressed with them so far….I PROMISE if you start accounting for where your spending you will spend LESS.
Check out mint.com too…it’s a safe place to track your spending.
 *Savings–whether it’s $5 or $500, there should be SOMETHING going in every month into just plain savings. This also is a great padding to have for when something unexpected and expensive happens. Start the habit now and it will become second nature. Living below your means just feels good.

2. REUSE/alter things you have.

Man, oh man have I learned a thing or two about recycling clothes…. I have learned how to use fabric from a cute dress I LOVED with a hole in it to wear as a scarf…or turned my old shirt into a skirt for Brightyn, or old pinstriped pants into a tie for Jack, etc. Look at old clothes you don’t wear as potential sewing projects and you will realize you can make clothes for kiddos and save some moolah. It’s a whole new world when you try to decide what to get rid of….lol. BUT, you don’t have to save EVERYTHING…just things that you will actually use for something else.

3. Pay your TITHING.

Though we don’t often earn money these days we still pay tithing ANY TIME we do. {random babysitting jobs, a certificate check for getting the highest grade in one of Braden’s medschool class–had to throw that in :), random things like that}.We believe in the law of the tithe and pay 10% of everything we earn. Man, has it blessed our lives! We have learned how to budget better because of paying tithing, have been blessed with all that we need because we pay our tithing, and random blessings when money is tight in ways that ONLY could be planned by Heavenly Father looking after us.

4. Never take out the full amount the school offers you for loans.

I say this for 2 reasons, 1-I know from experience you can TOTALLY live below it….kind-of easily actually….2-you begin accruing loans as SOON as the disperse the money until the day you start paying back {boo!…so don’t take it all}, 3-YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE OUT MORE! Once I found THAT out it was almost like, …um….are they TRYING to trick us into accruing more debt….so up to a certain date (call the school and they can tell you) you can ask for more within the amount they originally offered. Off the top of my head I wanna say we could get like 5,000 less than they offered…but I don’t REALLY remember. So far, we’ve never HAD to ask for more. We have some built in padding that has always left us fine so far…..but, it is comforting knowing that you can….might as well TRY to spend less, rigggghhhhtttt? Years later the thousands dollars LESS with thank you.

5. DUMPSTER DIVE!!

This is one of my FAVORITE things to do. Don’t judge me. Try it first! Okay, I don’t really go in a big dumpster and shop {though I’m not opposed to that if I had some friends and babysitters…and there weren’t any weird creatures and bugs around}….I’m talking big garbage day shopping. In good ‘ol Oklahoma we have a big garbage day on the 1st Monday of the month and it is simply the best. Everyone puts their big garbage by the street for the garbage men to get. My kids and I drive around EVERY big garbage day around here…we get new kids toys, storage containers, free lotion samples from Bath and Body Works {weird, why would someone throw that away?}, patio chairs, hay bails for Thanksgiving tonight actually…patio decor, right?, book shelf, etc. And, I’ve seen lots of stuff I haven’t taken because I don’t have room …. air hockey table THAT WORKS, 3 piece living room furniture set {saw that tonight}, etc…..OOOhhhh, it makes me sooo happy. I have to thank my sisters-in-law for bringing me for my first time when I was engaged to the Mr….never did I know how addicted I would become. Truth is, I LOVE shopping–always have, but am too dang cheap to actually buy stuff. Dumpster diving, I can shop guilt free as MUCH as I want FOR FREE–addiction fulfilled. FREEDOM!!! So fulfill your shopping desires dumpster diving and you will learn you can do the whole budget thing. 😉
Latest find::

Kitchen in amazing condition...as in PERFECT! The lady said the dog peed on the corner and she didn’t feel like cleaning it. Um, it’s PLASTIC!! Chlorox!! There were like 3 dots in the corner, and I chlorox any dumpster dive finds anyway and it came right off. Finds like these make me wonder how and if I will ever go back….and bless that woman for her lack of desire to clean.

Anyway, it’s our first time to be in debt in our marriage and it’s the first time EVER in our marriage we haven’t had a decent amount of money in our savings. This is why we want to stay in debt as SHORT as possible. Who knows how much of a difference these things we do will help us get out of debt OR how much more quickly, but I’m SURE it will help and it has taught me to be frugal and thrifty. I’ll never be the same. As in, will I ever stop dumpster shopping on big garbage day? I don’t know maybe in like 15 years…..?? It’s SO FUN! Could I really pay 50 bucks for something I could get for free? Not looking likely at last for 15 years. It’s fun and gratifying, y’all should totally try it!

There’s my blurb on loan money and budgeting…..exciting, I KNOW!

Ah, wait…one more thing…I totally keep track of the budget old school. While some people are into Mint and I do recommend it as a safe way to organize your budget, I STILL prefer paper and pencil. Mostly because in one receipt I have multiple categories to divide into usually. For example, I may have gotten Sass a shirt at Walmart, good for grocery, and some cheap sunglasses for me. In this case, I would have 3 different categories in one receipt:: Mandy personal, Sass personal, and grocery. Mint can’t quite divide it like that….and if it can, it seems way more complicated to me than just doing it myself.  I guess I’m just plain old school. [and I don’t write down gas/bills/etc…I just account for grocery, personal money for every one, misc money, cleaning money, and family fun money….the rest we have in the budget and can just live and know we’ve planned well.]
Wow…apparently I am kind-of passionate about all that unlike my unenthusiastic kids :). I’m done now! 🙂 Hope that helps someone organize their budget. I have come to love budgeting and have been blessed immensely by it. Go do it, it isn’t hard I PROMISE!

 

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